Time is what you make of it

When Gryffin died, Kevin and I were shocked – shocked because we’d had no warning, shocked because he was only ten. We used to joke that we’d have him “forever” – or at least for 14 or 15 years. After all, he was a mutt, and they outlive their pure-bred brethren, don’t they?



Two months later — still floundering in the fog of grief, we adopted Galen; she was eight weeks old, four weeks younger than Gryffin was when we adopted him. It never dawned on me not to adopt a puppy. The younger the dog, my subconscious whispered, the more time before good-bye.

With thinking like mine, what’s to become of older dogs on the rescue circuit? Fortunately, there are (many) people wiser than I am, who know that time truly is what you make of it.

My second guest post comes courtesy of Jane from Knoxville.

Goldie was ten when I first saw him. He was brought to a meet and greet that the Golden Retriever rescue group I was working with was participating in. His coat was thin and patchy and shaved from mid-tail to mid-hip. The bare space was covered with a long series of broad stitches. What had been there, I was told later, was a growth the vet tech described as having the size and appearance of “an exterior brain” on a stalk. He was thin. He weighed 52 pounds. His eyes smiled softly, as softly as his tail wagged whenever anyone came up to greet him. Few did. Most were occupied with the gorgeous, blonde, two year-old, fluffy Golden girl I was attempting to hold.



I kept looking back over my shoulder at him. He would return the glance. At the end of the event, he would have to go back to the vet’s—not for any medical reason, only because he had no foster.

I watched as he introduced himself gently to anyone who would come up to him. And I couldn’t stand the thought of him in a cage. I asked a leader in the group if I could take him home. She smiled when I asked. I think she knew that’s where he’d stay.

And stay he did in my studio apartment with me and the Shih-tzu a generous woman had given me a few months earlier when she decided he needed a chance at more attention than he was getting. Me, Oreo, and Goldie in my tiny apartment.

But Goldie was happy. I am not sure how many of the ten years he’d lived had been outside, but the old boy loved the air conditioning, the soft carpet, the eight cups of dog food I gave him daily to get his weight up and being close by, so he could stick his big wet nose over the edge of the bed whenever he felt like it. He didn’t seem to mind that the apartment was small.

A walk was good, too. He and Oreo and I, a comical looking mismatched bunch, would make our perambulations around the complex and he would stop to greet, in fact, he would insist on greeting whoever we passed. I have come to call it “Goldie running for mayor.” Soon, little scaredy Oreo was following right behind him and whoever we happened on to had better not be in too much of a hurry to stop and socialize with these unlikely twins. Or they would get an affronted look. A really affronted look.

Once we passed some boys playing soccer. Goldie’s head came up. He was alert. His big ears swiveled forward. He watched, stolid and earnest. The tail flicked back and forth. I could tell he was remembering. I could tell that as surely as if he had said it out loud. And it was a happy memory. But he didn’t yank on the leash and try to join in. He seemed to know he couldn’t do that now. But he could cheer them on. Even if it was from the sidelines. It was a lesson.

It was by no means the only lesson. Goldie was chosen to be a “Ruff Reading” dog. I accompanied him to the kindergarten class where tiny, delighted students practiced by reading him books about frogs and birds and sometimes even dogs. After a couple of books, he’d put his big head on a small lap and lick the book maybe or stick out a paw as big as one of the kid’s hands in thanks. And they would pet him. And pet him some more. When the teacher wasn’t looking, a kid or two would run over and sneak a kiss on his head. And he would lay there calmly. I think he was smiling.

Puppies and young dogs are full of their own delights. Adopt an old dog and you’ve come as close as you may ever get to having an angel in your house.

Once, when I took Goldie to the vet, a man said. “Now there’s an old guy. How long do you think you’ll have him?” I have no idea why someone would ask a question like that. The answer is this:  All we’ve got is this minute. And the next one. And the next one. And however much love we can fit in them.

Goldie had to have another surgery to remove some golf ball sized cysts on his back and neck. More fur shaved. More stitches. The girls at the vet’s office who let him sit up front with them in the reception area called him “Frankendog.” But now he has a dense curly coat of gold and silver. He weighs 70 pounds. And he will be 12 in May. Oreo licks his ears and lies down next to him on his bed.

I thank him for being here. For making the minutes full ones.

Guest Post: The best pet of all!

Today’s musing comes courtesy of my eight-year-old daughter via a third grade writing assignment that asked students to write an essay about their favorite pet.


A dog is my favorite pet, and why? You are probably wondering. This is why. First because they are cute and cuddly. There are so many different kinds that when you go to the shelter to get a dog, you don’t know which one to choose because they are all so adorable. Also, because they are fun to train. When we got our dog after the first died, she was such a pleasure to have for a new pet.  And we played a lot with her. She was very energetic, so we took her to Doggy Daycare, and it changed everything.  We also didn’t have to teach her to sit. When someone held up a treat, right away she would sit. And lastly, because they are the best things to help you cheer up. My dog always cheers me up when I cry.  And when we were at a New Year’s party, I was fooling around with a pool ball with my friend, and the pool ball hit my finger and it hurt badly. Lucky for me they had a dog. And she cheered me up plenty. Dogs are my absolute favorite pet so I am thrilled to have one. Do you have a dog?


I love this essay for so many reasons (beyond the obvious maternal pride in a daughter’s creativity and near flawless grammar and punctuation.) But what struck me on first read was her declaration that people adopt dogs from shelters.

Not pet stores.  Not breeders.  Shelters.